We’ve all experienced jealousy at some point in our lives, and it most often shows up in our romantic relationships. While it’s normal to have feelings of jealousy occasionally, it’s not healthy for you or your partner to be consumed by jealousy. If you feel that your jealousy has caused issues in your relationship, we’re here to help. Here are some tips on how to overcome jealousy in a relationship.
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Practicing self-love is incredibly beneficial when it comes to overcoming issues of jealousy in a relationship. Oftentimes, jealousy results from not feeling like you’re good enough for someone. It stems from low self-worth and feelings of inadequacy. It has much more to do with you than your partner – the only exception being if your partner has cheated on you or tried to make you jealous. If this is the case, it’s important to acknowledge that’s an unhealthy relationship and you’ll never truly be able to move past your feelings of jealousy while you’re still in that toxic environment.
When you learn how to love yourself, you don’t feel as uncomfortable in your relationship. Instead of fearing that your partner will move on to “someone better,” you’re safe and confident in your own skin. Over time, by practicing self-love regularly, these feelings of inadequacy will fade away.
Explore Your Feelings
Do you know where your jealous feelings stemmed from? More often than not, feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth (two of the main traits of jealousy) are the product of your childhood. If you were put down as a child or had parents who didn’t validate your emotions, it’s likely you’ll grow up thinking you aren’t good enough to receive love which will have you constantly anxious about losing someone. Part of the practice of overcoming jealousy is to explore your feelings when they arise.
When you notice jealousy coming up, instead of being consumed by it, sit with it and question where it came from. By doing this often, you’ll be able to start to disidentify with these old feelings from your past.
Communication is key when it comes to a healthy relationship, and this is particularly true if you experience jealousy in your relationship. It’s important that you be transparent with your partner, so they can understand you better. While it may be intimidating to express how jealous you feel to someone you love, it’s better to openly communicate this because if you don’t, it’ll come out in other, unhealthy ways.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who is emotionally mature, then they should be able to help you overcome your jealousy by offering you space to feel safe, validated, and reassured. While you don’t want to rely entirely on your partner to help you feel more secure in the relationship, their support and understanding is a necessary counterpart.